When that golden ticket to a much awaited job arrives at our doorstep, many of us may mull over how to put our best foot forward. In my experience, it’s not just what we say, wear or do. While these have their own merit, they’re just sewn up sparkly images that we try our best to wear and are likely to fade away someday. The secret to enduring success goes much deeper than just one’s charm or skills. A stanza from a popular poem sheds some light on what I mean:-
If you think you are beaten,you are. If you think you dare not, you don’t.If you like to win but think you can’t, it’s almost certain that you won’t. Life’s battles don’t always go to the stronger woman or man, But sooner or later, those who win, are those who think they can.
Yes, the first step to personal success begins inside, with our thoughts, values and beliefs about ourselves and others. In simple terms, it’s Self Talk. So what do you say to yourself?
When you are introduced to your workmates? When you realise that your workstyle differs from the rest of your team? When the boss calls you in and you don’t know why? When you aren’t able to understand a task the way the others seem like they do? When you carry out a task exceptionally well? When you make an error in an email or on a task given to you? When the boss talks to a colleague more than he does to you? When you are asked to work on something that is new and challenging? When you run late for a meeting or forget to fulfill a work commitment? When you have an idea, plan or strategy that you’d like to share with the team? Now, take a moment to feel your responses and assess whether your self talk in these situations were encouraging or discouraging? Were they energetic or fearful?
If they were encouraging, Congratulations! You are armoured with the strength of self worthiness that will take you a long way in your working life. If they weren’t encouraging, you may need to dig deeper and ask yourself how you can be kinder, more positive and more supportive towards yourself. Why do you feel you aren’t deserving of a second chance? Why do you feel you need to gain constant validation to feel good about yourself? Or Why do you feel you may not get along with your team members or boss without giving it a try? It is wonderful and exciting to engage with work you love, to collaborate with teams and managers, to be put up to the challenge of meeting targets or fulfilling commitments, and to contribute in a way that matters to the team or organisation. Yes it is! However, in the same context, there will also be times when our spirits are put to the test. This is when our Self Talk kicks in and decides whether we allow ourselves to fall or rise stronger. At the workplace, you need to be your greatest cheerleader! And the minute you stand behind yourself, you’ll have your best foot forward!